" DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? "

I found this as one of the very interesting article i've read. My cousin Carren told me that i will like this article and so helpful for me to gain knowledge in dealing relationship, which is true because i personally relate the story below. That's why i posted it here 'coz i want my friends too, to read and learn from this, i know i'm not the one who post it here in blogs but for me its nice to know that all our friends and loved ones learn from it.Thanks to the writer who wrote this blogs coz he/she touch everyone's heart.

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...Those who are already married or in a commitment may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages or relationship breakdown. People blame their spouse/partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work. Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting and strong marriage.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make"love.

Love is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling. You'll not just go away with your relationship just because the feeling is gone. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

"Marriage is more than saying I Do. Marriage, like a precious plant, needs constant tending for it to grow, flourish, and bear fruit to last a lifetime, and beyond."
-David and Evelyn Feliciano


TAKE TIME TO READ.. TO THOSE WHO ARE NOT MARRIED YET, YOU MIGHT LEARN FROM IT...AND TO THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY MARRIED, YOU STILL MIGHT LEARN FROM IT..:)

Catherine's Thanksgiving Day!

It was Sunday morning on March 6, 2011 when my sister Carol and I started pack up our things to be ready to go for an outing together with our office mates.

My two niece Kc and Rica notice us as were preparing ourselves, as they see us they get also there swimming attire and wore they're two piece swimsuit hurriedly.

Reluctant to bring the kids, i interrupt what they are doing because of what i did the 2 girls cried out loud and insisting that they want to go.
The younger one (rica) hold my short tightly coz she really want to accompany us, pity on them my sister decided to let them be with us together with there mom our eldest sister Connie.My niece are very much excited on that day coz we let them to go with us...as we ride in the taxi my sister told the driver to drop by at the jollibee drive thru to order some burger and french fries that makes my nieces happier when they eat it as the driver continue drove the car going to our meeting place.

As we came in our meeting place,we've come first followed with Sarah and Catherine. Some of my colleagues did not come because of some reason so we decided to go there without them. While on the road my niece are much happier because they really have some fun if they will go out in our house,they keep on chatting inside the car until we came in our destination.

At last were here!..the two kids really amaze of the pool with a very attractive playing pool. They run near it and looks so very happy,same thing with us were smiling as we saw them. We look a cottage that is near to nature and put all our things, get all our foods that so yummy especially the sphagetti made by Catherine. We chatted and laughing while preparing our lunch. Finish indulging our delicious food,we started to join the 2 kids swimming in the pool. Catherine doesn't like to go swimming so she volunteer to get some pics with us while swimming,in short she's our photographer on that day.We really like the place because its very cozy,we go anywhere to have a shots,in the water pool, in pool slide,at the bench..everywhere!

The good thing here in Forest Hill Resort is near to the City,the ambiance is very refreshing,cool nature,cheap entrance fee for only 100 pesos each and the pool fitted to the children and there is adult pool too.There comfort room is clean and the water is so cold,and also they have a zipline if u want to have an adventure like in Camp Sabros though its not too far but still you will feel the excitement if your a first timer to this. You can choose a cottage also,if you want like a modern type but simple cottage its here and if you want your cottage on top surrounded by trees then you can have it. This resort is designed for a family outing that don't want to go far from the city.

In the afternoon,Mitch and her son Matt came that makes my little  niece Rica excited though shy she's like that when she saw another playmates. But Matt is very excited too to jump in the pool that's why Mitch can't resist what Matt wants,they went to the pool hurriedly. After the swimming, all of us decided to have a group picture..Me, Sarah,Catherine, Mitch, My sis Carol and Ma'am Mic2x.

After the picture taking we packed up our things to goes home while Mitch approach us to take a ride to her car and drop it by near downtown. Everybody is so happy as we goes home though too tired but delighted and satisfied on that day.